“I Don’t Do Happy”

I have a cousin who, when questioned about her life, would say “I don’t do happy”.  For a while there I though this was quite a sensible thought.  My life felt dark, empty, full of grief and sadness, and I couldn’t imagine that it would get better in any way that would allow me to be “happy” again.  I was quite attracted to the idea of going around saying “I don’t do happy” to any person who asked how I was.  Thank goodness I got over it.

Ok, so I am not the SAME happy as I was when my husband was alive, when we were raising our family, life was good, and we thought we had years to look forward to, and our favourite saying was “I want to grow old and senile with you”.  But I am happy in that each day I get to spend time with my children, be in this beautiful place I live in, be fortunate enough to be able to pay my bills and still have a bit left over to fritter from time to time, smell the fresh air, remember my memories, and even that I can still feel sad whilst knowing that I won’t stay forever in that moment.

So, now I try to think  “I Do Happy”, which is why I have changed my tagline line ever so slightly, from “happiness in everyday events” to    ….“happiness in every day”.

This makes me happy
This makes me happy

thanks for listening

6 responses to ““I Don’t Do Happy””

  1. Happiness comes in all kinds of forms, and your blog clearly tells us that. I put down not being ill with everyday illnesses like the common cold as being positive and happy. It’s incredible how many negative people I know always seem to be ill. I hope this and every day ahead of you is full of happiness and positivity.


    1. Right back at you with the good wishes. 🙂


  2. a Boy Named Sue Avatar
    a Boy Named Sue

    My wife doesn’t do happy very well. We recently (like a couple of weeks ago) came out of a nine-month long, bitter custody battle with her ex-husband and after the dust settled and bank accounts were drained, she relinquished custody of her youngest son (age8) to her ex while we keep her older boy who is not quite 10.

    I guess she has a valid reason not to do happy but I worry for her and hope beyond hope that she will someday soon realize she “won’t stay forever in that moment.”

    That you can “do happy” gives me hope that she can, too.


    1. Oh, that must be indescribably hard for her, and for you. I wish that Happy visits her soon, if only for small moments, but I guess it will take time. Best wishes to you and your family.


  3. A beautiful thought, a a beautiful post. Xxx

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Happiness is kind words from a friend …..

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