Question 11: Titles – Gender & Marital Descriptors

Question from D2:

If you’re not Female or Male are you Email?

Mum, answering:

So, you mean if you’re not a She or a He you’re  an E!

Question 11:  What Title do you use?  (This is not in the style of my usual fun question)

I have a thing about titles – Mr, Miss, Mrs, Ms, why do women need so many to try and define us, but Men only one?  I am a Widow, but we don’t use that term anymore, so what am I now?  I don’t feel like a Mrs, I’m not really a Miss, I’ll never be a Ms – why can’t there just be some generic identifier that is NOT a definition of marital status. (I know, that was supposed to be what Ms was for, but in my opinion it just sounds horrid, as it brings back awful memories of several Phys Ed teachers of my High School years.)

Gender has also become a minefield, as now some people identify as NOT being either, as being no gender.  What title do they use.  Person?  I truly do not know.  How can we have an equal society where a man can go from birth to death carrying one descriptive title that does not describe his marital status, but a woman can only a title that is based on her marital status?

With all those words out there, all those creative people wielding them, surely there is someone that can think of something better than titles based on gender or marital status.  Isn’t there?

I would really like some comments on this one, please?



8 responses to “Question 11: Titles – Gender & Marital Descriptors”

  1. Reblogged this on to search and to find and commented:
    Hey Me, I am re-blogging this post to my other Blog, just thought you might like to know. 🙂


  2. Hahahah!! Talking to yourself now!! I stick with Mrs. because I earned that title!! And I totally agree with you about Ms. I hate it!!!!


  3. I have never been married and was okay with Miss for a long time. I’m not that bothered about titles anyway. Now I think that Ms is acceptable because there is only one letter different from Mr. 😊


    1. Thanks for commenting Maria, it is interesting to me to know what others think.


  4. I have always felt uncomfortable about being called a mrs. I am a proud and happy wife but with the title I feel a bit off, as if it doesn’t truly define me. Maybe it’s dumb for me to feel that way but that’s how it is. I usually just say my whole name.


    1. It very interesting how a few little letters can change the way people perceive us, the way we perceive ourselves. I always liked being referred to as “partner” before we were married, not possessive overtones in that word for me.


  5. It’s not the same thing, but men have identifiers as well. I can’t tell you how much I loathe the word bachelor. I am not a bachelor. I have been in a committed relationship for 13 years. My partner and I are not Felix and Oscar on The Odd Couple. *THEY* were bachelors. So people (especially older relatives) referring to me as a bachelor is a backhanded insult to my commitment. The commitment I was not allowed to make legally binding until last year, I might add.


    1. You are quite right Nathan, sorry for that oversight, I guess I was just ranting about my perspective as a woman, but I can see exactly what you are saying. Nate over at “the relative cartographer” has a good post that talks about this too. I think titles should go the way of dinosaurs. To be defined by a few letters is an insult to everyone, if they don’t like their title. My personal bug is official forms, they just do not have any options for those who do not wish to be “titled”.


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